One of the issues we have as sapiosexuals is recognizing intelligence in a potential partner in the wild. Evolutionarily, the traits of our species' visual appearance have been selected to advertise reproductive success. If anything, there may have been an evolutionary advantage in actually hiding one's intelligence.
This being the case it takes extra effort to find a partner whose intelligence can genuinely complement their own. Dating sites can help give you an idea of the person's education, background, etc, which is useful. The flaw that I've noticed in the online sites is misrepresentation. It's also easy to form a false sense of intimacy before meeting somebody face to face.
But just now I noticed an intelligent person in the wild.
It was a couple. I had my ear guards on so I couldn't hear their conversation, but one of them was explaining to the other something very passionately. The passionate one was gesticulating complicatedly, in a way that brought to mind communicating a complex idea. The quiet one's body language wasn't being convinced by the other, instead continuing to look off in a direction as if considering it the passionate one's continuing arguments.
Something in that moment just struck me. I'm not sure if it was that the one person's opinion mattered so much to the other, or what exactly. But even if all my assumptions were completely wrong, I've still learned something from this silent scene.
Intelligence has been hidden, discouraged, and persecuted in history. And while in the past I've always insisted it's next to impossible to cold read if someone is intelligent, it seems that I'm going to be revising this belief. Wild!
This being the case it takes extra effort to find a partner whose intelligence can genuinely complement their own. Dating sites can help give you an idea of the person's education, background, etc, which is useful. The flaw that I've noticed in the online sites is misrepresentation. It's also easy to form a false sense of intimacy before meeting somebody face to face.
But just now I noticed an intelligent person in the wild.
It was a couple. I had my ear guards on so I couldn't hear their conversation, but one of them was explaining to the other something very passionately. The passionate one was gesticulating complicatedly, in a way that brought to mind communicating a complex idea. The quiet one's body language wasn't being convinced by the other, instead continuing to look off in a direction as if considering it the passionate one's continuing arguments.
Something in that moment just struck me. I'm not sure if it was that the one person's opinion mattered so much to the other, or what exactly. But even if all my assumptions were completely wrong, I've still learned something from this silent scene.
Intelligence has been hidden, discouraged, and persecuted in history. And while in the past I've always insisted it's next to impossible to cold read if someone is intelligent, it seems that I'm going to be revising this belief. Wild!
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